How to Choose the Perfect First Dance Song for Your Big Day
Your first dance as a married couple is one of the most emotional and memorable moments of your wedding day. All eyes are on you, the music starts, and for a few magical minutes, it’s just the two of you.
But what if the song isn’t quite right?
Even celebrity weddings aren’t immune to awkward music choices. The Beckham wedding famously raised a few eyebrows when their first dance didn’t quite match the romantic atmosphere everyone expected. It’s a reminder that choosing the right first dance song really does matter.
At RCT Entertainment & Events, we’ve DJ’d thousands of weddings across Essex, Suffolk, London and beyond, and we’ve seen just how powerful the right song can be — and how disappointing the wrong one can feel.
Here’s how to make sure your first dance is unforgettable for all the right reasons.
Why Your First Dance Song Matters
Your first dance isn’t just a tradition – it tells your story.
The song you choose sets the tone for the evening, creates an emotional moment for your guests, and becomes part of your wedding memories forever. Years from now, when you hear that song, you’ll be transported straight back to your big day.
The wrong song, however, can feel rushed, awkward, or simply not “you”.
Common First Dance Mistakes Couples Make
1. Choosing a Song Just Because It’s Popular
Just because it’s trending on TikTok or played at every wedding doesn’t mean it’s right for you. Your first dance should reflect your relationship, not social media.
2. Not Checking the Lyrics
Some songs sound romantic but have heartbreaking or negative lyrics. Always check the meaning before committing.
3. Picking a Song That’s Too Long
A 6-minute epic ballad can feel endless when you’re in the spotlight. Most couples are best with 2–3 minutes.
4. Forgetting About the Dance Style
Not every couple wants to waltz! Choose a song that fits how you want to move — whether that’s a slow sway or a fun, upbeat routine.
How to Choose the Perfect First Dance Song
Make It Personal
Think about:
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Your first holiday together
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A concert you attended
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A song from early in your relationship
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Lyrics that reflect your journey
Your guests will feel the emotion if the song means something to you.
Consider Your Venue & Atmosphere
A romantic barn wedding in Essex may suit a different style to a glamorous hotel wedding in London. We always help our couples match the music to the vibe of their venue.
Test It on the Dancefloor
Play the song at home and imagine walking onto the floor. Does it feel right? If not, keep looking.
Speak to Your DJ
An experienced wedding DJ can guide you towards songs that:
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Sound great on professional sound systems
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Create the right emotional build
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Flow perfectly into your evening party
Popular First Dance Song Ideas
Here are some timeless favourites our couples in Essex love:
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Ed Sheeran – Perfect
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Christina Perri – A Thousand Years
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John Legend – All of Me
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Elvis Presley – Can’t Help Falling in Love
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Etta James – At Last
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Lewis Capaldi – Someone You Loved
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Calum Scott – You Are The Reason
Want something more unique? We love helping couples find hidden gems that feel truly personal.
How RCT Entertainment Helps You Get It Right
When you book RCT Entertainment & Events, you don’t just get an award-winning Wedding DJ — you get expert guidance from a team with 20+ years of experience.
We offer:
✔ Online playlist planning
✔ Face-to-face consultations
✔ Professional sound systems
✔ Seamless first dance moments
✔ Crowd-reading DJs who know how to build the perfect atmosphere
From your emotional first dance to a packed dance floor later in the night, we make sure your music flows perfectly.
Make Your First Dance a Moment to Remember
Your wedding day only happens once. Don’t leave one of its most important moments to chance.
With the right song, the right DJ, and the right atmosphere, your first dance will be everything you dreamed of — not a headline for the wrong reasons like the Beckham wedding.
If you’re getting married in Essex, Suffolk, London or surrounding areas and want expert help choosing the perfect soundtrack for your big day, we’d love to help.
🎧 Book Your Wedding DJ Today
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